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Mother sends card on daughter’s birthday to doctors who told her to abort her baby

Image Credit: @StevieWestAgain via X

A mother has shared on social media how every year on her daughter’s birthday, she sends a card to the doctors who told her to abort her daughter after a disability diagnosis. This year marks the 16th card the doctors have received, which also include photos of her daughter, who is now thriving. 

Stevie J West, with the username @StevieWestAgain, shared on an X thread earlier this month how three doctors had told her to abort her unborn baby after her 20 week ultrasound scan said that her baby was only measuring at 15 weeks.

“I refused amnio and all invasive testing but the first doctor, based only on that scan, diagnosed her with primordial dwarfism. He told me, "we will schedule termination and you can try again”. As if it was a forgone conclusion I would kill my baby for being "imperfect,"” she said.

“I said no immediately, but he kept insisting until I walked out of the office. "She will be profoundly disabled. She will have no quality of life." The second doctor agreed with the first. The third doctor agreed with the two who came before. All of them wanted me to kill her.”


“I ended up having to find a high risk OB, perinatologist, and neonatologist out of state who would agree to care for us. But even they all told me I needed to prepare for a late term miscarriage, a stillbirth, or an early infant death,” she explained. 

Ms West was put on bed rest from 26 and a half weeks where every day her unborn baby’s heartbeat, blood pressure, movement and breathing was measured and scored out of 8, needing to have a score of at least 6. When Ms West was 33 weeks and 3 days pregnant, her baby was scored 2 and she was rushed in for an emergency c-section.

“She was born blue and silent. The tiniest, most perfectly formed baby I have ever seen. But she wasn't crying. She wasn't moving,” said Ms West.

“I have never felt fear like that and never before or since have I cried out to God like I did that day. I watched doctors and nurses surround her, trying to get her to breathe while they stitched me back together. I saw the oxygen mask cover her whole little face.”

“I saw them prepare to intubate. "Lord Jesus I CAN NOT," my heart cried out. "I need, I need, I need." Over and over. "My baby, Lord. Take my breath and give it to her." The doctor hovered over her tiny mouth with a breathing tube. The room was so quiet,” she continued.

“We heard what sounded like the mewl of a tiny kitten. Crying. Pinkening skin. The breath of life. They whisked her away to the NICU with a properly tiny oxygen mask and brought me to recovery. The doctors kept me updated.” 

“"She is alive. She is not intubated. She is fighting. There appears to be no dwarfism but it remains unlikely she will live a normal life. We don't know if she will ever walk or talk or be aware of her surroundings. We don't know how long she will be in intensive care."”

Ms West’s baby girl, whom she named Eloise, was in intensive care for four hours before to her mother’s surprise she was brought to Ms West’s room. She did not spend a single night in intensive care and went home after three days.


“She suffered some complications in her early childhood. All were fixed with surgery and physical therapy. Today you would not know of her early struggles unless I told you. She is a straight A student at the top of her class. She is a gifted athlete. She is a published author,” Ms West said.

“She is kind, compassionate, and gorgeous. She is an animal lover and a caretaker. Today she is a young lady of 16. She is tougher and stronger and braver than anyone I have ever met. I cannot wait to see the amazing things she will continue to do with her life.”

“Doctors are not infallible,” she continued in her thread. “Prayer is not always answered in the way we want. Not every baby will have a happy ending to his or her story as we were blessed to have, but EVERY baby deserves a story.”



Back in 2024, on her daughter’s birthday, Ms West shared how she sends a card on her daughter’s birthday to the three doctors that told her to abort her little girl. 

“Every year on her birthday I send cards to the three doctors who tried to talk me into killing my daughter before she was born because they feared she may be "profoundly disabled". She isn't. I include pictures. These will be in the 15th card they've received. I hope it weighs,” she said.

This year, in a separate post, she updated followers to say that each doctor had received their 16th card for Eloise’s 16th birthday.

“They all got their 16th card today. My baby thrives, as every single baby regardless of their diagnosis, size, sex, age, or race has the absolute right to do. Stop telling women to kill what you perceive to be "imperfect" or "inconvenient." Happiest of birthdays, my Tiny Miracle.”

In 2019, just months after abortion became legal in Ireland, a couple underwent an abortion of their healthy baby Christopher, after doctors had advised abortion to the couple after he was mistakenly diagnosed with Trisomy 18. This was despite the fact the parents had not mentioned abortion and said they would care for their sick baby, but were instead told there was no hope. Gript also recently reported on two more confirmed cases of babies being aborted after a mistaken diagnosis.

Vicky Wall from Every Life Counts, an organisation that provides support to families whose babies have been diagnosed with life limiting conditions, has said that repeated requests to review the abortion law in order to ensure that safeguards were in place so that no woman or family are pressured into an abortion, were repeatedly ignored.

“It’s just heartbreaking – and its like babies who have a severe disability don’t matter, even when the diagnosis is wrong, they are just seen as collateral damage,” she told Gript.

Sandra Parda of the Life Institute said that Ms West’s story is “an amazing and inspiring testimony. Not only did she bravely stand up to the doctors by giving her child a chance at life, but she continues to stand up to them by reminding that their immediate solution to turn to abortion instead of providing care for both mother and baby is flawed.”

“Pregnant women are already vulnerable, and receiving a diagnosis where the child may not survive birth is devastating. Abortion is not an answer to a diagnosis and doctors, who are supposed to be providing life-saving care, should not be so quick to give up on a child who is diagnosed with any condition. Whether a diagnosis is mistaken or not, every child deserves a chance at life.”

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